Life is beautiful and amazing until that one unforgettable event. Some people call it accident or misfortune, but in other cases, it is a trauma. A trauma is a very disturbing experience. It affects the mind. Trauma is usually because of a high amount of stress that a person cannot cope up with.

Most people find it very troublesome to get over such experiences. The voice in your head tells you that you are guilty, a loser or a defeated person. You believe it and that makes your journey of healing difficult. You feel alone and frustrated.

According to my research, the main reason of the hurdles in getting over a very stressful situation is the wrong expectations. When a person reaches a goal, he thinks that he has “done it”, he has “made it” to the end, but in reality, there’s no end, there’s no specific goal.

The moment he reaches his aim, he uncovers another. It’s like the layers of the onion, after you peel one, there is another. And peeling onions will make you cry.

The solution to this is to be accepting — accepting of the reality, accepting your true self, accepting that you are sensitive, a little immature or whatever you think it is. Practice acceptance and watch what happens.

Another reason is the guilt. When you feel guilty or shameful, your inner self says, “There is something wrong with you”, “You have done this” or “You are not good enough”.

Trauma is a solid energy stuck in your body. Obsessive thinking, fears and demotivation are all negative energies. So what to do?

The answer is love. Love yourself. It will allow you to answer questions like, “Am I fine the way I am?” and “What if I’m not broken and unworthy?”

This “love” will give you the courage to shift your focus and start acknowledging the stress as a little tumble that you took, and you will be fine if you just get up, dust yourself and move on again.

Trust your inner-self. You will not ever know how to trust yourself until you do try. The processing of trusting yourself cannot be forced because then it might pressurise you, and creating false expectations that lands you back into the pit of guilt.

Feel safe when you are in touch with yourself. This is a slow process. Your willingness to explore yourself and your abilities will do the work. Celebrate each step. Trust yourself.