Old habits die hard: helicopter parenting at workplace

Published
0
A man walks in a park at a business district in Seoul, South Korea on March 23, 2016. —Reuters/File
A man walks in a park at a business district in Seoul, South Korea on March 23, 2016. —Reuters/File

IN South Korea, entering the workforce has long been seen as a defining step into adulthood. But for some young workers, that milestone is being overshadowed by parents who are unwilling to let go.

According to online workplace communities, parental interference in adult children’s careers is emerging as a notable burden for human resources departments, particularly in matters involving compensation and office conflicts.

In a post uploaded to Remember, a business card management app, titled “Is this a company or a real estate agency?” its writer, who introduced himself as a male software developer in his 30s, said the mother of a new employee at his company recently visited the office to demand a higher salary for her child.

“We barely managed to talk her down after explaining that the salary range was already set and would go up over time. It felt like parents signing a rental contract for their underage kid. Does it really make sense for a parent to interfere in salary negotiations?” he said.

Overprotective parents once plagued classrooms, now they’re interfering in their adult children’s workplaces in matters from salaries to office conflicts

He added that parents showing up at companies is far from unusual these days, saying, “At my friend’s company, a young employee’s father actually came to the office shouting, ‘Bring out the person bullying my child.’” The post quickly drew a flood of comments from users sharing similar experiences.

One user working in materials and inventory management shared that he once witnessed an applicant’s father sit in on a job interview.

“The father said he was worried because it was his child’s first time looking for a job,” the user wrote. Another comment read, “I work in a marketing department, and our interns are required to work eight-hour shifts, but one intern’s mother called asking if we could let her child leave early because she had plans with friends.”

Parents meddling in their adult children’s workplaces represent the latest evolution of “helicopter parenting” in Korea, a term used to describe parents who are excessively involved in their children’s lives.

A 2024 survey conducted by JoongAng Ilbo of 40 HR managers at South Korea’s 100 largest companies by market capitalisation found that 14 respondents, or 35 per cent, said they had been contacted by an employee’s family member.

The reasons for contact varied from inquiries about department transfers and salaries to dress codes and vacation requests.

The extension of helicopter parenting into adulthood appears to be rooted in a widespread belief that a child’s achievements and failures ultimately reflect parental responsibility.

A survey conducted in March by the Korea Institute for Health and Social Affairs of 1,600 parents aged 45 to 69 with children between 19 and 34 found that 2 out of 3 respondents shared that perception.

Published in Dawn, May 18th, 2026

Opinion

Editorial

Kashmir unresolved
Updated 30 Sep, 2026

Kashmir unresolved

The just solution lies in India addressing the issue through a trilateral dialogue involving the legitimate representatives of the Kashmiri people and Pakistan.
Water shortage
30 Sep, 2026

Water shortage

THAT the country is entering the Rabi season with an anticipated water shortage of nearly 25pc, the lowest carryover...
Young hearts
30 Sep, 2026

Young hearts

THE observance may have passed, but the message of World Heart Day should not fade with it. The occasion is a useful...
Terror and politics
Updated 29 Sep, 2026

Terror and politics

There is an urgent need to tone down the rhetoric and tackle terrorism as a collective challenge for both the affected provinces and the federation.
Watching the glaciers
29 Sep, 2026

Watching the glaciers

THE latest signs from Pakistan’s mountains are worrying. Suparco says the number of unfrozen glacial lakes it...
Dangerous agenda
29 Sep, 2026

Dangerous agenda

AS the world remains fixated on the US-Iran conflict, elsewhere in the Middle East, Israel is consolidating its grip...